Tiger parenting- Opposition

 

TIGER PARENTING

There was a man. His parents forced him to study good, earn a seat in a top college and get a good job. He did so and when he got into a job, he kept on being devoted to the job earning promotions and increments in salary every time. He strived and strived and became a head to many world businesses. But when he grew old, he then only came to realize that he had not gained anything. He had just lost everything. His whole life. Success doesn’t last with you. Only happiness does. Success is never the key to happiness. Infact it is happiness that is the key to success. When you are happy and content and not pressurized, you can achieve greater results.

Parents always want their children to be successful, and some of those parents push their children to the best they can. While some of us may believe, that success is all that matters in the world out there, I disagree partially. The tiger parenting style is famous for the high levels of achievement parents’ demand from their children.  Yes, success is important but the well being of the child also matters. When you attain success, you also need to be happy to enjoy it. When the child is raised by Tiger parents, the child will likely be pressurized to go on to the next competition and stop enjoying anything they take part in. A recent research has also proven that the tiger parenting doesn’t create child prodigies and help them achieve in competitions.  On the whole, Tiger parenting’s negative points outweighs the positive points.

A better way of parenting is Dolphin Parenting. It has points both of Tiger parenting and Elephant parenting. A dolphin parent focuses on child’s success and his/her’s emotional wellbeing.

Its an ancient saying, “Parents are the water and sunlight that help them grow.” As students of science, we know that water and sunlight does not fully control the growth of the plant. The law of the nature is SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST. Yes, the water and sunlight aid the plant in growing. But if it is given too much, the plant dies. If it is given too less, then it dries up. The parents’ primary duty is to guide their child into becoming a responsible citizens of the future.

Another reason why I oppose tiger parenting is, it would make them more dependent on someone. They won’t be able to make their own choices. In tiger parenting, a child is programmed to run like a computer by their parents. Another reason is tiger parenting is based on commands given by parents. For example, parents may say, “Don’t eat that”. In a tiger-based family, the child will not eat it but won’t understand why his parents asked him to not eat that for questioning would be restricted in their family. But in a dolphin-based family, the kids are trained to question and learn why they are not supposed to eat it. Tiger parenting has negative effects and can also poison the child’s mind.

Tiger parenting approach is that is associated with higher rates of depression in the children, a lot is expected from them, and their anxiety levels are high. Furthermore, they are being controlled on almost every aspect of their lives and they are regularly monitored. Asian children feel the pressure their family put on them as a burden, they feel incarcerated. Children should be encouraged to take decisions from themselves instead of always doing what their parents want them to do. While this makes them very dependent, they will always need someone to keep a watch on them. Children should be molded into being a good global citizen, with good values and this can only be achieved with wellbeing and parents should explain without threatening. In a tiger parenting style, the child behaves well only in front of them, but when he/ she is alone, they feel they are controlled. They want to do something, but they can’t. They are not allowed to. This can have a drastic effect on the entire society. Tiger parenting leads to behavioral problems in school and low self-esteem. While tiger parents may believe that scolding and meting out harsh and cruel punishments can make the children learn their lesson, they are partially wrong. This will depress them further and lead to even lower marks. A little louder voice than normal can do a naughty child a lot whole good but, refusing to talk with the child, beating them or scolding them harshly will lead to drastic effects such as self-hatred and violence. A little encouragement is all it takes. Motivate them, be a helping hand and give them care and guidance when they need it. Be an encouraging, strict, and helpful parent- your children will thank you tomorrow for the future requires, self-driven, independent, and healthy citizens.